I woke up this morning seeing a lot of pictures on my Instagram and Facebook with kids and adults dressing as super heroes. I realised there was a DC Justice League Run held this morning at Sentosa Island. Parents and kids came decked out in their super hero costumes to participate in the run. The topic on super hero kinda invokes some thoughts in my mind. I decided to pen it down here on my blog before I forget about it… You know la, short term memory….
About a week back, I switched on the TV and watched a HK show titled “As the Light Goes Out” aka “救火英雄”. It is a show about a team of Hong Kong firemen risking their lives for the call of duty. Starring Shaun Yue, Nicholas Tse and Simon Yam. The cast of the show made me just sit through the whole movie. Basically there was a group of kids that had a school excursion to the main HK power station but 3 of the kids did not follow the school bus back and they went around exploring the power station themselves. This incident happened on Christmas eve. Worst of all, something happened with the gas pipes at the power station on that very day causing the entire Hong Kong island to blackout. There was a huge fire inside the power station and the kids were trapped. One of the kid’s dad was a fireman (Shaun Yue). He was part of the team that was called upon to put out the fire and restore the electric power back to Hong Kong island. It was actually a very dangerous situation. When Shaun Yue knew that his son was trapped inside, he wanted to go solo inside to rescue him. There was a chance that he will not make it back alive. Against the advice of his colleagues, he literally went in via a very dangerous entrance path and he managed to save his son and his friends in the end. I believe that his son regarded his dad as his superhero in life.
I grew up watching all the super heroes cartoons like Captain Planet, He-Man, Batman, Superman, Wonderwoman and Spiderman. What do all these superheroes have in common? Their mission is always to save the world from the evil one. In the eyes of our kids, the parents are usually the Superman or Wonderwoman. They look upon us as their guiding star or their protector. Whenever they feel threatened, the parents are usually the ones that they turn to for help. As a loving parent, we will naturally want to protect our kids from all “evil” or harm. We want to build a safe haven or house for our kids to relax. The house should be a place where our kids can find refuge.
So how can we as a daddy be a superhero to our kids? I have 3 ways which I would like to share on this.
1) Be brave and courageous
Yes. Did you notice that all super heroes are unfazed in the midst of danger? When your child comes to you with an issue, the best thing the parent can do is to encourage them to face and battle the issue. Battle it together. Try not to leave your kid to fend for him/herself unless you got a solid reason to do so. When you do it together, you will be surprised that the chances of overcoming it will be much higher. Parent child tag teams have a special force that is not so easily being overpowered. Sounds like some Star Wars Jedi power huh? A super hero will fight to the very end! Help the child to take care of their issues and you will be a superhero in their eyes.
2) Impart them life-skills
What have life skills got to do with being a superhero. Superheros got special skills right? For example, Cyclops from X-men can emit powerful light beams from his eyes and Captain America is a super soldier that is hard to beat down. As the saying goes, give the child a fish and you can feed him/her for the day. Teach the child how to fish and he can feed him/herself for a lifetime. Superheroes should always think of continuity so as to ensure that their special skills will be passed on from generation to generation. I am a believer of letting my kid climb things and fall by himself. Of course, as long as the environment doesn’t allow him to suffer from broken bones, it’s fine to me. Falling and getting up is part of life. I have seen parents that are being over protective of their kids and making mountains out of mole hills. Probably my thought may not go down to well with what mummies think. I think the mummies generally are more protective of their kids. However this is a dad’s blog and I share things from a daddy’s perspective. =p.I am sure as a superhero, you will want your kids to grow up to be a superhero too and let this superhero “tradition” carry on from generation to generation. Start the kid when he/she is young. Teach them various life skills when they are from 1.5 years to 5 years old. I believe this is the time where they will absorb the most stuff and that their future is built during these years. Good habits are easy to form but bad habits are hard to break! Our kids will be thankful to us parents when they are in their late teens or early adulthood years.
3) Give it to the kids
Whatever the kid asks you to do or whichever place they would like to go to, as long as within your abilities, we should try to fulfill it for them. Unless it’s something illegal or totally out of this world like maybe “send me to the moon” . If you run out of places to bring your kids to, go check out CheekieMonkies book “Got Kids Go Where” . I guarantee you that you will not run out of places to go. 500 whooping places to bring your kids to. Super heroes has the ability to fufill a kid’s wish just like a genie in the bottle. Do your best and if it’s a really impossible task, do make the effort to explain to your kid on why you cannot adhere to their request. Reason with them and never slap a FAT NO in their face without any proper explanation.
So in summary, what are your thoughts about being a parent superhero? Do feel free to leave a comment on this blog post yea. Have a good week ahead! =)